Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Bed.
When it comes to what women want in bed, men tend to make serious avoidable mistakes like these While you may give yourself pep talks before a lazy encounter or pat yourself on the back after a great time in bed, don’t be too smug about knowing what women want.
1 Mistake In Bed. Not enough foreplay
Good foreplay is essential. It gets a woman lubricated, making sex more comfortable for both of you and increasing her chances of orgasm.
And yet women still complain that too little time is spent warming up.
The lesson? Take whatever you think the duration of foreplay should be and double it. In fact, triple it!
2 Mistake In Bed. Poor personal hygiene
image of a shower representing personal hygiene before sexThere’s nothing that a woman hates more than bad smells. But where sex is concerned, personal hygiene needs to be a little more than a daily shower.
Make sure your nails are trimmed down nice and short, and filed too. Not only do spiky nails hurt sensitive skin (and more important areas), but they harbor bacteria too, so keep ’em short.
3 Mistake In Bed. Sex Starts in the Bedroom
Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.
Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.
Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during sex, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”
4 Mistake In Bed. Go easy with the clitoris
Women enjoy the clitoral stimulation than any sort of penetration. So never ignore her clitoris. Yet, at the same time, don’t treat it like a scratch card and rub relentlessly in order to make your partner climax. Remember, the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so too much force can actually prove painful.
5 Mistake In Bed. Silent play
No matter the circumstances, most men tend to be eerily silent during the entire act. You may think that’s fine, but this makes your woman feel alienated. It makes her wonder if she’s actually pleasuring you. There’s no need to exaggerate your feelings, but you can let your partner know you’re enjoying her company in a genuine way. The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing.
6 Mistake In Bed. Sensitise to her wants
If you think that simply pounding away at a woman during sex is a major turn-on, you are wrong. Yet, many men convinced that it will ultimately bring their partners to orgasm. But women are sensitive souls. They appreciate nuance, feeling and deep emotion. So, rather than thrusting away from beginning to end, you’ll want to vary your speed throughout sex. Gauge your partner’s response, take it as a lead and simply go with the flow. If she asks you to go harder, oblige. But if the moment calls for it, go slowly. The key is to sensitise yourself to what she wants, and not what you want.
