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 Things He's Hiding on His Dating Profile

In a recent study conducted at Cornell University and the University of Wisconsin-Madison it was discovered (no surprise here) that 80 percent of people using online dating sites lied about their height, weight, or age. Here are a few more things men tend to lie about when online.

His Job
Oh? You're about to go out with a good-looking CEO of a booming start-up? Don't be surprised if that means he has a great idea for an app and is working out of his parents' garage. Most men have a tendency to inflate their titles or responsibilities in order to impress women. It's not a great idea to ask about his salary, but a safe bet is to ask about his title and how large a company he works for. CEO is very impressive, but not if the company is him and his dog.

His Intention
Just because a man is on a dating site does not mean he's looking for a long-term relationship. In fact, if you're on Tinder, you should assume that the guy is trying to get laid and be pleasantly surprised when it turns out he wants to date you. Aside from certain apps like Heavenly Sinful, where you're explicitly asked to say whether you want to hook up or date, the guy's intention is often unknown.

His Height
On average, guys will say they are two inches taller than they actually are, and will assume you're not going to bring a tape measure to the first date. If you're curious, you can wait until his wallet's open while paying for (at least his share) of the bill and say, "Oh! Let me see the photo on your driver's license. Mine is horrible." There, as clear as day, is his height (no one cares enough to lie to the DMV).

His Weight
Men (well, everyone) will post photos of themselves from when they are looking their physical best. So if you show up on date number one and the guy is looking twenty pounds overweight, don't be shocked. If you're lucky it may go the other way; he may have just recovered from breaking up with his long-term girlfriend and lost the gut men tend to accrue when they no longer feel they need to impress their partner. Now that he's single he wants to look great. But the pessimist in me leans toward warning you that he may be a bit heavier than you imagined.

His Worldliness
He may say he loves to travel but that doesn't guarantee he's ever left the United States. He may say he knows a lot about wine but that might just mean he knows that he likes Pinot Noir. Don't assume anything based on the guy's stated hobbies or interests; just like his job description it is likely inflated and made to sound more sophisticated than it actually is.

His Relationship Status
I hate to say it, but even if a guy makes himself available on a dating site it doesn't necessarily mean he's there to seriously date. Single can mean anything from "haven't had a girlfriend in five years and looking for sex" to "newly divorced and sad." There are men who are going through a break-up (but it's not quite over with their gf) or are in an open relationship and they are on these sites because it seems innocent enough, but they are not emotionally available to be with you.

His Age
One of the most common lies on dating profiles is a man fibbing about his age. More often than not he's likely older than he is. If you're in your early twenties and a man says he's 29 there's a chance he might actually be a 35 year-old who knows you would never date someone more than ten years your senior. If that's your thing though, then search for men in that age range... but hope they're not in their 40s.

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Dating advice for women.

Seven Tips to Be a Savvy Dater: What Men Never Tell You
While our male counterparts can confuse the heck out of us Dignity Daters, sometimes they can be the best when it comes to dishing out dating advice. Now that you have access to the Dating with Dignity’s Men’s Advice Column (Starting with these 5 dating tips for women from men!), you’ll never be confused again.

1. Do your own thing. Don’t let a man become the center of your universe. If you make a man your whole life, he’s going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered! Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic “you” who has her own interests and passions who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing. Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.” Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends. Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc.

2. Don’t overindulge on a date. While you might think it cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. Let him get to know you as you are. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk. Also, order a real dinner. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it! Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish).

3. Some men ARE afraid of commitment (so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one). Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone. He’s going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend. So even though it’s great to let a new guy know where you are in your life or about your dating goals, take the time to get to know him before you decide. (We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four). As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Don’t rush the getting-to-know-each-other part. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.

4. We always want you to invite us in after a first date, but we secretly hope you’ll say no. If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date. It will probably make him wonder if you would do the very same thing with every other. This is also a good way to feel out whether he’s looking for some casual fun or something a little more serious. Often we believe that a man will expect us to get physical from the get-go and that if we don’t, men will lose interest if it doesn’t happen right away. In fact, it’s actually the opposite. It’s not a deal breaker every time, but it does make the “getting to know you” part more complicated.

5. Don’t call us all the time. Let us call you. If you’re consistently calling, texting, emailing, and doing all the asking out, a man won’t have to lift a finger. Let the communication be balanced. This is not to say that you can’t ever reach out to a man you’re dating, but let him do the asking out–at least in the early stages. If you’re both interested in each other, there will be a natural balance in the amount of communication. If you feel like you may be guilty of over-calling, take a break and see if he comes back and puts in the effort. If so, wonderful. And if not? Move on, sister! You deserve someone who wants to reach out to you, call you, and ask you out.

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Dating advice for men.

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So you’re online dating, you find someone you’re interested in, and it turns out they’re interested in you too—That’s great! You’ve matched, you’ve connected, you’re into each other. Now it’s time to start talking. And that’s where things can get a little tricky. For those of you who have a hard time coming up with a good conversation starter, or who are maybe just unsure of how to keep the conversation going, we came up with some online dating questions to help you get to know someone before deciding to meet up.

Online Dating Questions to get the conversation started:
Tell me a little bit about yourself. Where are you from?
Hi. I’d like to learn more about you. Where are you from?
Tell me about yourself. What do you like to do?
So what’s your story?
What do you do for a living?
I’m a dog lover. Do you have any pets?
Are you a vegetarian?
What did you do last weekend? Anything fun?
Do you believe in star signs?
What’s your sign?
What’s your star sign? Maybe we’re compatible.
Do you know what Chinese zodiac you are?
Family is important to me. What’s your family like?
What’s your favorite cocktail? Do you have a signature drink?
What’s your normal weekend like?
I’m a competitive person. How about you?
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Do you like scary movies?
Would you consider yourself a sarcastic person?
Do you like tattoos?
Do you have any tattoos? If you got one what would you get?
What’s something you could talk about for hours?
If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
If you could be a character in any movie, who would you be?
What actor/actress would play you in the movie of your life?
What’s one thing I should know about you that’s not on your profile?
How did you pick your display name?
What’s one saying you try to live by?
Are you close to your family?
If you could choose a superpower what would it be?
What’s the nerdiest thing you’re willing to admit?
What are you most likely to stay up all night talking about?
I love hearing other people’s stories. Do you have a good one to tell?
What’s your idea of the perfect day?
When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
Are you an adventurous person?
What’s your favorite cocktail?
What’s your favorite restaurant?
Would you describe yourself as a romantic person?
Yes or no: Do you like to dance?
Yes or no: Do you believe in love at first sight?
Yes or no: Are you romantic?
Do you have any nicknames?
Where did you grow up?
Are you an outgoing person or are you on the shy side?
What’s one thing you’d bring with you to a deserted tropical island?
What’s the fondest memory you have?
What’s your favorite place in the whole world?
Tell me one random fact about yourself.
If you had three wishes from a genie, what would you wish for?
See any good movies lately?
Read any good books lately?
Hey, I’m a big exerciser. Do you like working out?
Hi. I’m into the outdoors. Do you like hiking?
Hey, I love traveling. Where’s the last place you visited?
I love traveling. Do you have any plans for a vacation this year?
Do you love to travel? What’s the best place you’ve been?
What kind of music do you usually listen do?
I’m really into music. Discover any cool bands lately?
I like music a lot. Do you have any favorite artists?
I love going to live shows. What’s your favorite concert you’ve ever been do?
I love music. What the first song or album you ever got?
Hey, I’m addicted to games on my phone. What do you play the most?
What shows do you binge watch?
What’s your favorite way to relax?
What’s your favorite sports team?
I’m a big sports fan. Do you like watching games?
Are you a gardener? I love working outside.
I’m a gardener. Plant anything new lately?
I’m into cooking. Any favorite recipes?
I love to cook. What’s your favorite dish?
I’m a big foodie. What’s your favorite restaurant in the area?
I love the outdoors. Are you a camper?
I love a good road trip. What was the last one you went on?
What type of stuff do you like to do on the weekend?
What kinds of things do you like to do for fun?
What do you like to do when you go out?
What type of stuff do you do in your spare time?
What’s your favorite book?
What’s your favorite sports team?
What’s one city you want to travel to?
What’s your favorite band?
What’s your favorite movie?
What’s your favorite song?
What’s one great book you’ve recently read?
Do you like working out?
What’s your favorite TV show?
Do you have any hobbies you’re passionate about?
What are your favorite things to do in your spare time?
Are you an outdoorsy person?
Do you play any sports?